Let’s be honest. Unless you moonlight as a supermodel on weekends, the idea of being photographed all day long on your wedding might feel a little… terrifying. You’re not alone. Most couples come to me saying things like “We’re so awkward,” “I never know what to do with my hands,” or my personal favorite, “We’re just not photogenic people.” Spoiler alert: that’s totally normal, and it’s also totally fine.
You don’t need to suddenly become America’s Next Top Model to get gorgeous wedding photos. The secret sauce isn’t confidence, it’s connection. With a bit of prep, the right photographer, and maybe a few deep breaths (or mimosas), you’ll be surprised how much fun you can actually have in front of the lens.
Let’s get into some real, practical tips to help you look natural, feel relaxed, and actually enjoy the experience.
7 Practical Tips for Natural Wedding Photos
1. Get Comfortable With Your Photographer Ahead of Time
Building trust with your photographer is one of the biggest factors in looking relaxed in your wedding photos. Want to feel less like you’re starring in a reality show and more like you’re just hanging out with a friend who happens to have a camera? Spend a little time with your photographer before the big day. Schedule an engagement session or even just grab a coffee together.
When you actually know the person pointing the camera at you, it’s way easier to relax. You’ll feel more like you’re being photographed by a friend instead of a stranger with a very fancy lens. And that comfort? It shows in every single photo.
2. Think Moments, Not Poses
Good news: you don’t need to memorize 50 Pinterest poses or hold your smile until your face starts twitching. Some of the best photos happen when you’re just doing your thing—laughing, cuddling, whispering nonsense to each other, or having a mini dance party when no one’s watching.
Your photographer will give you gentle prompts, not bark out orders like you’re in a fashion boot camp. Things like “walk and chat,” “pull each other in for a hug,” or “whisper your favorite pizza topping in your sexiest voice” (seriously, it works) can turn into magic. It’s about real moments, not stiff poses.
3. Practice Helps Build Confidence
Think of an engagement session like a dress rehearsal, but way more fun and with less pressure. You’ll get to know how your photographer works, figure out what feels natural, and realize that “posing” is really just moving around while being your adorable selves.
Most couples walk away saying, “That was actually fun,” and “Wait, we look kind of amazing!” Consider it a confidence booster and a sneak peek at how great your wedding day photos will be.
4. Focus on Each Other, Not the Camera
If the thought of “Where should I look? What should I do?” is already making your palms sweat, here’s the trick: ignore the camera. Seriously. Just focus on each other.
Look at your partner. Laugh at their jokes, even the bad ones. Hug like it’s been a year, not a second. When you shift your attention to the person you love, everything else fades into the background—including the lens. You’re not posing for a magazine. You’re celebrating your love story. Let that be the focus, and the camera will naturally capture the magic.
5. Let Go of Perfection
Real talk: stuff will go “wrong” on your wedding day. Hair might blow in your face, someone might ugly cry (it’s allowed), or your dress might get a little muddy walking through that gorgeous field. And guess what? Those imperfect moments are usually the most beautiful ones.
Perfection is overrated. What really matters is how the day felt. So breathe, laugh off the little things, and let yourself be fully present. That’s what your photos will reflect—and those are the memories that stick.
6. Wear What Feels Like You
What you wear can have a big impact on how you feel in your photos. Choose clothing and accessories that feel like an authentic version of yourself. Whether that’s a timeless gown, a bold suit, comfy sneakers, or a flower crown you made the night before, own it. Your vibe should say, “This is me and I feel amazing!” Comfort = confidence. Always.
When you feel good in what you’re wearing, it translates into how you carry yourself and how you interact with your partner.
7. Trust the Process
Once you’ve chosen a photographer you trust, let them guide the experience. Trust them to find the light, the angles, the moments. You don’t need to overthink or overperform. Just show up, be yourself, and let the day unfold. The magic lives in the real moments, not the perfectly posed ones.
By trusting their expertise and letting go of the pressure to “perform,” you’ll create space for real moments to unfold. And those are the moments you’ll love most when you look back at your photos.
In the End, It’s All About the Feels
Looking natural in your wedding photos isn’t about suddenly becoming a camera-loving extrovert. It’s about feeling safe, staying present, and letting your connection lead the way.
Prep a little. Laugh a lot. Trust your photographer. And most importantly, enjoy the heck out of your day. If you do, you’ll end up with photos that feel just like you—genuine, beautiful, and full of heart.
Weddings With K. Lenox Photography
To all my readers, I hope you found these tips and ideas helpful. If you enjoyed the featured weddings, don’t miss the individual posts for more details, including vendor highlights and full photo galleries.
- Molly & Jake| East Matunuck State Beach Engagement Session
- A Mountain Top Wedding | Molly & Jake
- Lakefalls Lodge Wedding: A Day in Blues and Sunflowers
- Kaitlyn and Alec’s Wedding at Indian Head Resort
If you or someone you know is looking for a wedding photographer, reach out to me by sending an email. You can find more information about my services and view my portfolio on my website. Don’t forget to follow me on Instagram, Facebook, and Pinterest for more inspiration and to see my latest work!
